I'd rather be bothered

Let's just start off by sweeping questions of where the hell I've been the last few months under the proverbial rug, and continuing on to the inspiration for this entry.


Preface: About a month and a half ago, I started volunteering at Tzeva (צ.ב.ע. - צעירים בונים עתיד), a non-profit organization that sponsors after school programs for youth all over Israel (mostly in low-income areas), including 7 centers just in Tel Aviv. Once a week I go to one of the centers in southern Tel Aviv for about two hours and help run the afterschool program. The program involves about an hour of tutoring/academic work followed by an hour of group activities.

So far I've really enjoyed it and it's definitely helped fill the void of wanting to feel connected to the world around me (not that easy to do sometimes from the 35th floor of a skyscraper where people talk in millions of dollars). I've met some great people along the way, and the kids - well, sometimes I think that it's them volunteering to hang out with me and not the other way around :-P

The Story: This week I was witness to a pretty disturbing event where one of the little girls who we work with was last to leave the building and was completely humiliated by the family member who was there to walk her home. He yelled at her for being the last one of the kids to leave (all the volunteers were still there, we stay after for a while to debrief) and said a few other things that I'd just rather not repeat. She became silent immediately and walked out towards the gate with her head down. Needless to say, it broke my heart.

It took all of my will power not to say something, but unfortunately it is not our place to do so. The other volunteer that was there with me communicated what happened to one of the teachers who happened to be in the building for a meeting, and I can only hope that the school system is sensitive to these kinds of situations and do their best to help. Perhaps there are bigger problems in the family, or cultural norms that I am not used to. But regardless of any of those variables, there's just no excuse for saying such terrible things.

The Subject of this Blog: As I was walking out of the building with my fellow volunteers, I was expressing how much it hurt and saddened me to hear someone yell at a child like that. One of the other volunteers essentially said to me that I shouldn't get so upset and let it bother me so much. While I can completely understand that this comment was made in an effort to comfort me, I can honestly say that I hope, for the rest of my life, I will continue to be as bothered and saddened when I am witness to such an event. Some may label this attitude naive, but my choice to be bothered is not a result of being blindfolded from the world. I am aware that this single incident is only one of millions that happen on a daily basis all around me. But should its universal and prevalent nature make it any less repulsive or disturbing?

It is my choice to let things affect me as they do. I make a terrible cynic and take no comfort in the "shit happens" mentality when it comes to these sorts of things. It's definitely not an easy route, choosing to be bothered, and I can't say that I do it with every terrible event that I hear or read about. But when you watch a sweet little girl be verbally attacked for wanting to spend a couple extra minutes in a place where she's happy, it's hard to just write that off as unfortunate and move on. Perhaps they are just words and she's dealt with worse. Perhaps she's just one of many. Perhaps I should just let it go.

But at the end of the day, I would rather be bothered.

the singable blog

Ingredients: 100% Song Lyrics (each song separated from the next by a "/")

Directions: Sing all content (clearly it's more fun that way)

Good morning, good morning,

Going to work - don't want to go/ everybody's working for the weekend./

And I said hey, what's going on?/ I read the news today oh, boy. /Everybody wants to rule the world. /It's the terror of knowing what this world is about, watching some good friends screaming let me out!/ War, what is it good for? Absolutely nothing./ Freedom is seldom found by beating someone to the ground./ It's the end of the world as we know it./ That's when you have to tell me, hey... this kind of trouble's only just begun. So we keep waiting, waiting on the world to change.

It's a beautiful day, don't let it get away./ Summertime, and the livin' is easy./ It's a nice day to start again, it's a nice day for a white wedding/ It's such a fine and natural sight, everybody's dancin' in the moonlight./ Summer days driftin' away, but oh those summer nights./ Here in these deep city lights, girl could get lost tonight./

Oh, I've been thinking a lot today./ When it's all mixed up, better break it down./ And life's like an hourglass, glued to the table, no one can find the rewind button now./Sometimes I feel my insides are heavy as heaven must be on the sky./ I think that I think too hard and I don't give enough credit to my heart./ I don't want to be anything other than what I've been trying to be lately. It's a mean town but I don't care - try and steal this - can't steal happiness./ At worst I feel bad for a while/ But then I just smile, I go ahead and smile./

These are the last words I have to say, that's why this took so long to write, there will be other words some other day, but that's the story of my life./

Why do all good things come to end?

it's all Greek to me...

what better way to return to the blogging world than a fun post about my recent Greek adventure/vacation? I apologize for the lack of pictures. It's really my fault since I made Dave (my vacation buddy) take all the pictures on his camera, but you'll all forgive me. I'll post links as soon as pictures are up (which, knowing Dave, won't take long).

The radio edit: lots of great food (read: stuffed tummies), endless beautiful scenery, numerous laughs at the expense of language barriers and translations, and enough relaxation to hold me over until my next getaway.

For those who want the extended album version, read on.

Wednesday July 4th, 2007
Day 1: After not sleeping the whole night since I thought my flight was earlier than it was in actuality, I arrived at the Ben Guiron airport around 4:45am for my 8am flight. Murphy's law was certainly in full-gear as all I can recall from that morning is standing in the seemingly shortest line for each part of the airport check-in process, and then having each of those lines proceed to move at turtle-speed. Nevertheless, I got on the plane in time and slept my way through the two hour flight to Athens. Upon exiting the customs section of the Athens airport, I saw Dave, for the first time in almost two years, holding up a hand-made sign with my name on it :-)

We did all the rental car check-in stuff, found the car we'd be driving in for the next five days, (a very cute Ford Fiesta) and shortly after that we were navigating our way out of the airport and on the way to a quaint little town called Stemnitsa. It took a few hours to get there, including a lunch break, and a few instances of stopping on the side of the road to figure where we were and what the signs said (perhaps I should have paid more attention to the Greek letters we used in high school physics?). The ride was beautiful, and the winding roads with amazing views made the time pass rather quickly.



Stemnitsa is home to some amazing honey. On the way we saw tons of boxes covering beehives on the side of the road, and in town every little shop sold various kinds of honey and jams. After a little bit of exploring, we found this very pleasant and homey B&B place to stay at for the night. We took a walk up to the highest point/view lookout area of the town and took lots of nice pictures, none of which will do the view justice. The whole town was probably a maximum of a few hundred people, and we seemed to be some of the only tourists there (granted, it was the middle of the week - apparently it's a very popular weekend getaway)

We decided to have a late afternoon snack at one of the coffee shops. They had this delicious dessert called Loukamades (sp?) which are essentially small fluffy balls of fried dough with honey, cinnamon and crushed nuts drizzled all over them. So good. I should learn how to make them. On second though, it's probably better that I don't... that could be dangerous. ;-)

In the evening we walked around and sat at one of the restaurants underneath our B&B for dinner. Well, I remember the wine more than the dinner (I believe there was some very salty fish involved). And of course the hand signals and gestures needed to facilitate the ordering of food. But it was overall a nice end to a long day, and thanks to the half liter of wine, it wasn't long before we crashed for the night.

Thursday, July 5th, 2007
Day 2: After taking our dandy ol' time waking up and getting our asses in gear, we had a yummy crepe and yogurt with honey breakfast, and strolled around town to buy some local honey. I bought two kinds of honey in the smallest jars we could find (which were not that small, really). Both types were very different in taste, and one was different than any honey I've ever had. "Yum" pretty much sums up that experience. We eventually rolled out of town and headed south towards a coastal town called Kardimili. The drive involved lots of crazy winding roads, a few breaks to take pictures of the gorgeous views, and doing my best to help Dave navigate (and by navigate, I mean point in the general direction we need to go and hope for the best).

By the time we arrived in Kardimili, we were hungry and looked for a place to have lunch. This meal was definitely the least successful (but at least there was some amusing people to chat with). We moved onto the task of finding a place to sleep - which would prove to be slightly more challenging than it was in Stemnitsa. One not so great room, two "I have no idea what you're saying - we don't speak Greek" conversations, and three "this place is nice but too expensive" later, we found a good deal on a fairly nice room where the guest book had positive comments from various past guests, including a couple Israelis. The guy in charge was extremely relaxed, and didn't seem to care who we were or how long we planned on staying. But it was a pretty good deal and so we got our stuff, changed and headed to the beach.

We walked a ways down the coast to a stone/pebble beach and were a less than pleasantly surprised by the water temperature. Maybe I've just become spoiled in Israel, but I had Atlantic-seasoned flashbacks that made it difficult to believe that we were swimming in the Mediterranean. Being the brave souls we are, (or just feeling that it would be rather lame of us to get all the way to the beach and not swim) we took a quick dip before giving up and hanging out at a little outside garden/cafe place across the street. We spent a few hours exercising our brains (well, as much as we were planning on doing while in Greece) with these rather complex crossword puzzles that Dave with him.

I'm happy to report that dinner was much more successful than lunch (yes, food IS a theme), and I even tried this octopus dish that was rather interesting (and chewy...). Towards the end of dinner we watched a boat come into the dock down below the restaurant. At first we didn't quite understand what the commotion was, but then we saw that the fisherman were hauling huge swordfish out onto the dock. We went down to get a closer look, and Dave took a few pictures. I do admit that it made me a little sad to see all the dead fish being weighed and thrown into a truck and was happy to move onto our short stroll through town. As Kardimily is quite small and there wasn't too much going on, we made our way back and settled in for the night.

Friday, July 6th 2007
Day 3: We woke up and had omelets for breakfast at a nearby cafe. After a quick connection with the rest of the world (read: email) we decided to take a drive up to the nearby gorge and walk along one of the many paths in the area. It took a little bit of trial and error, as well as a short but interesting detour before we found the area where the path went along the gorge. In retrospect, it probably wasn't the best idea to hike exactly at noontime with the hot sun beating down, but the views were well worth the sweat. That being said, I'm sure Dave has a least a few pictures of me climbing up rocks, giving him the "what have we gotten ourselves into" look.

Many liters of water we consumed that afternoon, and we had a lovely lunch at a beach town a few kilometers up the road. By that time we were quite ready to cool off in the water and spend some time on one of the sandy beaches around us. Now, it's always been quite difficult to keep me out of the water (just ask my parents) and I am not a big fan of just lying on the beach tanning. But this water was COLD! Just when I thought it was a fluke that the day before we were freezing in the water, we get to this place where the water is beautiful, clear, inviting and freeeeeezing! Eventually you could adjust, but we still didn't stay in for all that long and spent some time reading under an umbrella before heading back to Kardimily.

We showered and had dinner at a very popular little place where this cute little old woman cooked all the food (with the help of her granddaughter it seemed). Dave and I ate separate meals (this is a BIG deal :-P) - he meat and me veggie. Bed was a welcomed and delicious end to our second day in Kardimily.

Saturday, July 7th 2007
Day 4: Saturday meant the end of our stay in Kardimily and the beginning of our drive back east towards Athens. We decided to take a different route than we did on the way down and it was well worth it as we saw some of the coolest views yet (including half and full tunnels through the rocky mountains around various curves of the road). We stopped to visit a little local spring and restaurant area and had lunch with some incredible views of the mountains. After satisfying our tummies and our people watching instincts, we were back on our way towards Napflio, a coastal town on the bay west of Athens, where there was supposedly an interesting fort that we could visit. And really good gelato. :-) We also pulled over to buy some great sour cherries that this old man was selling on the side of the road. The rate per kilo wasn't quite clear, but after handing over a few euros, we ended up with a huge bag full of cherries. Score.

We arrived in Napflio by late afternoon and after some less than successful investigation, we found a decent place to stay for the night and dealt with the higher rates. Napflio is definitely a much more touristy town than the other places we had visited. After getting our stuff together, we headed up towards the famous fort to see what that was all about. It took a little bit of driving in circles before we finally go to the fort entrance and made our way inside. Both Dave and I were fairly skeptical about how interesting this was going to be, having been to various forts in other cities/countries, but this ended up being truly awesome. First, we were able to climb up and around all areas of the fort, with nothing blocked off (not even parts that should probably have been blocked off for the safety of the public; read: clumsy people like me). We also had about four times where we thought we had reached the last part of the fort and should turn around and head back. First there was a steep stairwell that led to a whole other area. Then there was a tunnel and then just a random path through some bushes. About an hour and 30 or so pictures later, we reached the flag and the ledge looking over the mountain below. We made our way back, both agreeing that this was well worth the trip and definitely goes on the top 5 list of forts we have each visited.

After showering and getting ready to walk around town, we agreed that it was time to experience the other Lonely Planet recommendation: gelato. There was brief talk of waiting until after dinner, but really, why wait? Two cups of gelato and many "mmmmmm"s later, we walked up the stairs of the town to get a better view of the sunset. It's no wonder the town is a popular tourist destination; it's quite beautiful and definitely has a venetian feel to it. We walked around town, sat down for some fruit shakes at a restaurant along the bay, and eventually had dinner at one of the many cute restaurants of the old city. Interesting/amusing side notes include:

1) asking this woman if the restaurant had a table open for two, having her answer us, and then about 5 minutes later realizing that she doesn't work there.
2) Dave wishing there were fireworks while we were having our fruit drinks, and then suddenly seeing fireworks across the bay
3) Almost crashing a wedding (OK, not really, but it was discussed) going on in the town plaza
4) After the fort but before the gelato, we managed to get in a quick spanikopita (spinach pie) break. This is why I love eating with Dave - good food is not something one should compromise.

In short, Napflio was quite pleasant.

Sunday, July 8th 2007
Day 5: Sunday was our last day in Greece, and our ride from Napflio to Rafina (where we were meeting up with Josh and his friend) was also the last of our major drives. We started off the day with some breakfast at a street cafe with nice couch-type chairs, and then got a relatively early start in order to get to Rafina by a decent hour. The trip was definitely the least interesting since it was mostly going on the outskirts of Athens and then over to the eastern coast. We were in Rafina by early afternoon and checked into the only hotel that we actually booked beforehand. The place was nice and right on the main plaza of the town. We had no idea when Josh and his friend were expected to arrive from the islands (or what island they were coming from), but the hotel receptionist told us that most ferries came in during the afternoon. So we went to get some lunch and hang out until the ferries showed up.

Lunch was a rather eclectic experience, involving a really good eggplant dish on one hand, and stuffed grape leaves that were frozen on the other. The grape leaves were clearly not meant to be as the first time the waiter brought them they fell off the plate and onto the tray he was carrying them. The second time, when he actually got them safely to the table, they were frozen. Needless to say, we didn't bother to make sure that there would be a round three to that game.

Various ferries came, none of them with Josh, and we eventually went back to nap and read in the room. That got old fast, and instead I re-taught Dave how to play sheshbesh (backgammon). Soon after our third game, we heard a familiar voice and there was Josh!

Ok, side note - when Dave and I decided to meet up in Greece, we had no idea that Josh would be on vacation in Europe at the same time, and planning to be in Greece on exactly the same dates as us. Now that is what I call too random to just chance. But who was I to deny the need for a little reunion?

Josh's friend, Julia, had sprained her ankle the day before so wasn't able to join us in the water, but we all drove to a beach about 15 minutes away and spent some time in some (finally) warm and calm water. The beach was insanely crowded, but it was nice to swim around, play some Frisbee (yes, I'm still terrible) and catch up with Josh.

We took the "Let's Go" guide's advice about a dinner option (or at least, we think it was the place they were talking about) and got a bunch of yummy dishes to share. Tzatziki (yogurt with cucumber), fried zucchini, cheese balls (think creamy mozzarella stick in ball form), fish, and baklava for dessert made for a yummy last meal in Greece. We stayed up and chatted with Josh for a lot longer than we probably should have and then slept a little before getting up to drive to the airport.

Being the "to be on the safe side" people that we are, Dave and I arrived at the airport and returned the car with plenty of time to spare, especially considering his flight got delayed 2 hrs. We got our last coffee together and said goodbye. I had an uneventful flight back to Israel and my bag was even one of the first few out (as most of my readers know, luggage arriving is a VERY big deal with me).

While it was sad for me to not be on vacation with my family (in St. Martin), I am very happy that I got to spend some quality time with Dave and see some amazing parts of Greece. Road trips are the way to go for those thinking of visiting the mainland, and I highly recommend taking a week out of your lives to do so.

Until next time...

quick update, list style

quick update, in list form (clearly)

things i'm happy to have behind me:

1) big conference at work that made it difficult for me to breathe like a normal person should for the last couple of months

2) realizing that i don't REALLY want to go to Business School (at least not right now) and thus not taking the GMAT or applying to grad programs

3) winter

things that i'm very much looking forward to:

1) my sister visiting (she arrives tomorrow)

2) the concerts and fun things that I am doing in the next few weeks (in light of #1)

3) going to Greece in July with Dave - i really have to get that ticket!!

things that i'm finding quite bothersome as of late:

1) global warming...which really just seems like the world was diagnosed as being bipolar/psychophrenic... somehow this one might always be on the list...

2) the fact that Jon Stewart seems more in touch with reality than any politician i can think of and as much as I love the Daily Show, I'm not sure how capable it is of influencing global politics

3) the "love triangle" formed by my three housemates: Amitai, my cat and the plants on our balcony

things that have made me very happy as of late:

1) Liz passing her tests and being done with training (i.e. more normal life and time off from the army...i.e. more time with yours truly ;-P)

2) knowing a lot of people being active for good causes, and being able to support them, financially or otherwise

3) discovery of a new (at least to me) artist, Mat Kearney

4) Sara Bareilles music finally being on iTunes (and her new cd coming out in the relatively near future)

5) watching Brothers & Sisters with Amitai until 2am (minus the getting up in the morning part)

6) summer fruits starting to be available at the market

7) getting a fun amazing new laptop (and recording equipment....mmm, garageband and i will be good good friends very soooooooon)

8) real personalized snail mail

at least the "making me very happy list" is the longest, right?

A letter to the Quarter of a Century

Dear 25,

I knew you and I would meet one of these days. Perhaps you feel like you've been waiting forever but from my perspective, you totally just snuck up on me...

Some people seem to think that you and I are going to have quite an eventful time together, others can't even remember their time with you so don't necessarily give you so much credit or memory space.

I figure I'll see how things go before I make any decisions about you. It's really only fair given the nature of our relationship. But let's set 3 important ground rules, shall we?

1) 25, I know this will be hard for you, but you must pay ZERO attention to all the talk about how you're going to win a Year of my Lifetime Award for your role in Lerone Meets Her Significant Other. Like I said, if it works out, GREAT, if not, I don't want to hear any complaining. 24 was fine with that, you should be as well.

2) We must cooperate and make sure that we take advantage of this time together. We are free to explore the world together and our limits are only those we set for ourselves. I (tfu tfu tfu) won't have that in my expected relationships with years like 35 and what not, so don't sell our relationship short. And while you're at it, try to remind me to let loose and go a little crazy once in a while. I'm sure 26 will be able to handle whatever "mess" we leave behind.

3) 25, I'm going to need you to back me up when I stand firm on my beliefs about not planning it all out. People might try to take you aside and convince you that I need to hurry up with certain things and slow down with others. But at the end of the day I want to get into bed with you knowing that you "got my back" and won't flake out on me at the first nudge of a family member or buddy of mine ;-) As long as we're both happy, there's no sense trying to please the rest of the world. Deal? Deal.

Well I think that's about it for now 25, I'll let you know if I think of other important discussion points. I'll be seein' ya (for the next 365 days).

Cheers to a happy and healthy relationship,
Your newest partner in crime ;-)

it's the little things...

at the end of the day it's all about noticing all the little things...

the guy at a bar I was at complained to the bartender that the salad on his plate was really bothersome and how he had asked specifically to not have salad on his plate... (WTF??)

when someone jumps and clicks their heels together (think Mary Poppins) lifting one leg in the air before you jump creates the illusion of both legs being in the air for longer and jumping quite high...

in the movie Wit (great great movie) Emma Thompson doesn't REALLY not have eyebrows, they just dyed them a light blonde so that people can't see them...

young Israeli fathers that love playing with their kids in the park are collectively one of the most attractive things in this country... (or maybe just for me)

my cat has a particular meow when she first sees me (or anyone, really) in the morning, and it almost sounds like she's saying "good morning" in her own kitten language...

i am very good at remembering random names and telephone numbers that aren't important and all and information and knowledge i acquired during college that could be quite helpful seem completely erased from my short and long term memory...

well-placed pauses in songs (in some ways this is the same is interesting syncopation) can be extremely important and unique. it seems odd to appreciate the silence in a song, but if you pay attention to them, they add great character to music...

the split second when you can see a flash of satisfaction on a person's face (before the nervousness sets in) as they do something courageous and decide to take a risk...

ok... those are all my "deep thoughts" (SNL style) for today...

the garden that is my mirpeset

It is no secret that, especially in Tel Aviv, a good balcony can make or break and apartment, and I knew from the minute I walked into my apartment for the first time, and out onto the balcony, I knew that this was where I would spend the majority of my time when at home.

As of yesterday my מרפסת (balcony) is even more enticing as my new roomate, Amitai, and his darling mommy brought all sorts of flowers, plants and herbs to join us at Nachmani 46 :-) Luckily Amitai will be able to help when my nose can't distinguish between them...(note: it's the first time I've seen zatar in plant form, so fun!)

In a couple weeks we'll be able to start cooking with them which will be GREAT! And beyond that all I need is for the weather to start warming up a bit so that I can spend more time out there in the evenings after work. And of course for my kitten to not eat any of our new little green friends :-)